Transitions are hard. Let’s make them easier.
The Momentum Files #5
An Easier Way to Navigate Change
Let’s face it. Change is inevitable. Some changes we choose, and others we don’t. Sometimes we’re able to go with the flow, and other times we fight against change and struggle to feel in control.
This is a normal part of life! And, believe it or not, a part of life that you can learn to navigate more easily. When you approach these transitional moments with tenderness, openness and some creative mindset strategy, you can move through them with greater confidence and ease.
Here’s how to make transitions (even those hard ones!) a little easier:
Acknowledge your feelings.
Whether you’re faced with a chosen transition (a new job, getting married, moving across the country) or one you didn’t ask for (losing a job, losing a loved one, changing your lifestyle due to a financial setback), you’re going to feel some type of way. Think about the transition you’re facing and what feelings it brings about. Some of the most common feelings my Career Club members identify include:
Fear: What am I getting myself into? What if the people who doubt me are right? How do I get through this unexpected and unwanted situation?
Freedom: Imagine how this change is going to positively affect my life! Although I didn’t ask for this, I can see how it will open new doors for me.
Overwhelm: This is a lot to handle, and I wish I felt more in control.
Excitement: I love discovering that I have the guts to make this change!
Whatever you’re feeling, take comfort knowing that it’s a normal part of the process. When you’re in tune with your emotions, you’re able to recognize what you need, why you need it and how to get the best possible outcome.
Remember that who you are is so much more than what you do.
When it comes to our identities, we are so tied to what we do. Our job title (I’m a coach. I’m a CEO. I’m a realtor.) becomes our sole identity. And when we transition from one thing to another, we can feel that loss of identity.
It’s crucial to remember that you are not just one thing. You are many things. When you navigate a life change, you bring ALL of who you are into the next phase with you. This makes the process so much easier!
Take a minute and write down who you are in all of your capacity. Go beyond the job title and include all of it! You might be a parent, a spouse, an athlete, a coach, an expert gardener, a community volunteer or so many other things. Get familiar with this list and celebrate all the things that you are. Most importantly, remember that when you go through personal and professional changes, you bring it all with you!
Look back.
What have you learned from previous transitions that might help you manage your current transition more easily? Tap into what you’ve already accomplished and how you got into the right mindset to handle those experiences. What did you do to stay calm and think clearly? What did you need to get yourself across the finish line? You’ve already survived every life change that has come your way, so you’re more prepared than you might realize.
Look ahead.
When in transition, we tend to box ourselves in and focus only on our current situation. Remind yourself to break out of that small space and think about the future. How is this change going to alter your life? What will this new reality look like for you? How will you know that you’ve handled this successfully? Get specific and paint a detailed picture of what your life will look like once you’ve succeeded.
Connect with your people.
Tap into your network and find the people who can support you, inspire you, provide fresh perspective and give you a big dose of reality when you need it. Neighbors, friends, colleagues, those who have done what you need to do – talk to them and be a great listener. Their advice can help you move closer to your desired outcome. And how wonderful that you don’t have to go through it alone!
I’ll say it again. Change is inevitable. Sometimes it’s wanted, and other times it isn’t. But it always provides an opportunity for learning and growth. And it certainly keeps life interesting and challenging. You’ll likely need time to settle into new situations but using these approaches will help make that path smoother and easier.
What transition are you navigating or anticipating? Reply and let me know what’s on your mind!
To Your Success!
Cindy Haba
P.S. Making your way through a professional transition is so much easier with a trusted ally to guide you! I’m offering you a FREE call to candidly discuss your goals and how I can help you navigate change like a pro. Click here to book!